The Starfish Project

The combined effort of our whole family.

Update on Mom (5/23/09)

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Today was both a difficult day and a beautiful day.  Mom left this world at 1:25 PM today.  She was home in her own bed.  She wasn’t in any pain or on any pain medication either.  She was surrounded by her family. 

She made the decision on Thursday that she was done with her fight and she wanted us to call Hospice of the Valley on her behalf.  The Nattokinase worked at the beginning, but it was no longer working.  Her body was beginning to shut down.

We spent Thursday evening saying goodbye to her.  She talked privately to each one of us – including the grandkids – and we talked about everything that was left to be said.  We told her of our great love and admiration for her and the way she chose to fight this terrible disease.

The hospice nurse came out to the house around 10:00 PM Thursday night and we got Mom comfortable in bed.  She took small doses of Morphine on Thursday night a few times, but didn’t want any more until later on Friday.

On Friday, we spent more time with her as she would wake up periodically between Morphine doses.  We were blessed that our brother, Keith Jr., was able to fly in last night to spend some time with Mom too.

She took her last dose of Morphine at 9:00 PM Friday night.  When it came time to give her more, she didn’t want it.  She told us she wasn’t in any more pain and that she was comfortable.

We took turns sitting with her throughout the night andmorning on Saturday (today).  She woke up many times during that time and we were able to visit with her and comfort her while she was going through this process.

Dad and I were with her this afternoon when she took her last breath.  She was peaceful and we felt the Lord’s peace resting on her as she made the transition to eternal life.  She was an example tous all in the way she chose to live her life and how she chose to treat this disease.  She will be missed very much and there will forever be a hole in our lives because of her absence.

Thank you so everyone who has been praying for herand encouraging her in her journey.  It was not the ending we were hoping and praying for.  She was concerned at the end that people would be discouraged from using naturopathic medicine to treat cancer because it had not healed her.  However, every situation is different and we know that the Decadron steroids were undermining all her naturopathic treatments.  Had we known that, we would have done things differently.  So, if you are reading this and you are taking Decadron steroids for brain metastases, you will have more information than we did and can make different choices.

In spite of our loss, we still believe in the power of naturopathic medicine and its ability to restore a person to health from cancer.  Mom did not have any of the terrible side effects that she would have had from conventional medicine.  She looked healthy adn vital when she passed.  She enjoyed many healthy months with her family and I’m sure she did not regret any of her decisions.

I will update with more information as I go through the grieving process for my Mom.  There is still more work to do to bring more complete information about naturopathic medicine to treat cancer and just because Mom is gone I don’t think I’m supposed to stop updating the blog with information.

So, until next time…


Written by Tracey

May 23, 2009 at 4:00 pm

Posted in Updates on Mom

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  1. Tracey, I am saddened by the loss, but comforted by knowing she is no longer in pain. You and your family have my love and support. Thank you for updating the information, very courageously written. Please take care. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help, here for anything, even if it is just to listen.

    Mariana Garcia

    May 23, 2009 at 4:33 pm

  2. Keith,Tracy and Gretchen
    I am so sorry to hear that Julie is gone. We were so close for such a long time, then she disapeared. I know you will all have gone through something terrible and heartbreaking. Your efforts and your research into this terrible disease have filled you with knowledge that will help you or someone in the future. Your memories of your wife and mother will last your lifetime. Since my mother passed in 2005 death was brought home to me. Then Bob passed away in January of 2008 and even after this passage of time I find it difficult to talk about what he went through and what I experienced. Again I am so sorry, my blessings are with you all. I pray for your comfort in the weeks and months ahead. God bless all of you. It won’t take my email address which is ‘’

    Saundra McAdams

    May 23, 2009 at 6:15 pm

  3. Dear Keith, Tracy & Gretchen,
    I am so saddened to hear of Julia’s passing. I know through this blog that it has been a long hard journey for her as well as all of you. I have no words to make everything all better but please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers as you walk through your grief. Julia was an amazing woman with an incredible heart and she will be deeply missed. May God give you peace and comfort in your time of loss.

    Elaine Manning

    May 24, 2009 at 2:11 am

  4. I was saddened to read that she had passed. Your Mom was fortunate to have such a caring family. As for the naturopathic medicine, it may not have provided the result that was hoped for, but may have extended her life for a bit longer. There is certainly some benefit to the use of natural medicine.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you go through the grief and sadness that comes with such a difficult loss. May your mother’s spirit be with you as my mother’s spirit is with me.


    June 8, 2009 at 6:49 pm

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